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Bible Text: Ephesians 4:17-32 |

INTRO:  We are in an endeavor to live a life that is pleasing to God and not grieving the Holy Spirit.  We are to be imitators of God.  The Holy Spirit lets us know how to live a life that pleases God.  If we know Jesus, we know what grieves the Holy Spirit.


> To grieve is to cause intense pain.

- When we are in a close relationship, we know what causes grief to that person.

- Causing someone grief is only possible if there is love.

- As a parent, we have to say “no” because we love our children.

- When the Lord corrects us, it means that He loves us.

- Hebrews 12:11:  “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful.  Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

> To know what grieves the Holy Spirit we need to know God.

- We get to know God by spending time with Him.

- Sit and listen; have a pen and paper to write down what He speaks.

- For those who have an ear, He will speak.

- He will let us know how to live a life that pleases Him.

- If we love God, we won’t be doing the things that grieve Him.

- If our relationship with God is waning or not where it should be, we will say and do things that are not right.


> For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord.  Live as children of light (Ephesians 5:8).

- We must no longer live as Gentiles (unbelievers) do in the futility of their thinking (v. 17).

- They don’t have spiritual eyes; they are separated from God.

- They are unable to spiritually perceive because their hearts are hardened (v. 18).

> We put off our old self and put on our new self.

- Our old self is being corrupted by its deceitful desires (v. 22).

- We have been set free from the old life, so don’t live that life anymore.

- Repentance is a change of heart, mind, and will.

- Bringing in behaviors from our old life will give the devil a stronghold on our life.

- We put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness (v. 24).

- We are to be imitators of God.

- We do not allow any unwholesome talk to come out of our mouths (v. 29).

- If it doesn’t bring grace to the person to whom you are talking, don’t say it.


> There is a difference between grieving the Holy Spirit and a person.

- With a person, it depends upon our actions toward that person.

- With the Holy Spirit, it depends upon how we treat God.

- Love the Lord with all your heart; love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:37-40).

- It also depends upon how we treat others.

- If we say we love God but hate our brother, we are a liar (1 John 4:20).

- We give place to the devil through an unrepentant heart.

- When we choose not to forgive, it leads to bitterness.

- If we resist the voice of the Holy Spirit when He is correcting us, we will develop a hardened heart, a calloused heart.

- It is like putting in earplugs; we wonder why we cannot hear from God.

> The Holy Spirit shows us the right way to live.

- We are working on it; it is a constant battle.

- Part of our testimony is the test.

- We get in trouble more with our mouth than anything.

- We need the Holy Spirit to bridle our tongue.

- It’s not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person; it’s what comes out of it (Matthew 15:11).

- If we can’t control our mouth, our religion is worthless (James 1:26).

- We choose to speak the truth (v. 25).

- We choose not to sin when we are angry; we don’t let our anger control us (v. 26).

- We are careful about the words we use; we build others up (v. 29).

- We can’t win people when we blast them or have a “holier than thou” attitude.

- We speak life “so that it may benefit those who listen” (v.29).

- “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to You, my Rock and my Redeemer” (Psalm 19:14).

CONCLUSION:  To grieve the Holy Spirit, we first need to know Him.  We do this by spending time with Him daily.  When that time is set aside on a consistent basis, it becomes a desire for us to do so.  We want to spend time with our Father and become more acquainted with His ways.  We need to renew our minds through the Scriptures.  The Holy Spirit will help us to know what is pleasing and what causes grief.

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