THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT: Adultery, It Involves More than You Think!

by / Sunday, 24 November 2019 / Published in

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Bible Text: Exodus 20:14; 1 Corinthians 6:18 |

INTRO:  When we think of the word “adultery,” we tend to only think of the body being involved.  But, according to the Bible, a person can commit adultery in three ways:  with their body, with their soul, and with their spirit.  In this message we’ll take a look at all three.

 I.  Committing Adultery with Your Body

> God is speaking to us about intimacy.

- God created sex.

- He formed it for a married couple to enjoy.

- God is putting a boundary around us.

- He wants us stay within these parameters.

> Adultery is abandoning what we believe about our faith.

- It can be devastating.

- The body wants what the flesh craves.

- The scheming is done in secret.

- No one announces that he or she is considering adultery.

- 1 Corinthians 6:18: “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.”

- It doesn’t say walk away, it says run from it.

- Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but sexual immorality is against your body.

- You were bought at a price (1 Corinthians 6:20).

- Because of this, glorify God in your body and spirit.

II.  Committing Adultery in Your Soul

> Adultery affects us more than we bargain for.

- It affects the people involved and those around them.

- Proverbs 6:32: “Whoever commits adultery has no understanding; he destroys himself.”

- The word destroy means corrupt.

- It is hard to be corrupt and have a connection with God.

- It corrupts the soul.

- The soul begins to rot, even though no one sees it.

- God can still redeem and restore us.

> The soul is the mind, will, and emotions.

- It is about how you feel and the decisions you make.

- We can commit adultery in our mind, with our thoughts.

- It doesn’t have to happen; it is a choice we make.

- If we followed the lusts of the flesh without any restraint, our culture would be destroyed.

> Any thought or feeling toward a person outside of marriage is wrong.

- Affairs start in the soul before they are in the body.

- The thought precedes the action.

- Lust precedes adultery; look precedes lust.

- “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).

- Both Potiphar’s wife and David looked and lusted before they acted upon their feelings (Genesis 39:6-7; 2 Samuel 11:2-4).

- It is not the sudden thought; it is the wrong thought or desire that accompanies one’s will.

- We need to take our thoughts captive  (2 Corinthians 10:5).

- Our lives head in the direction of the thoughts we allow ourselves to think most often.

- The desire for illicit sexual pleasure is sin.

- Illicit sexual pleasure ruins marriages and relationships.

- We have to guard ourselves and others.

- Job made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully at women (Job 31:1).

- Men need to make a covenant with their eyes.

- Do not stir up love until it is time that it is pleasurable to God (Song of Solomon 3:5).

III.  Committing Adultery in Your Spirit

> Adultery affects your spirit as well.

- Genesis 2:24:  "A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."

- It doesn’t say one spirit, it says one flesh.

- A man leaves his mother and is joined to his wife.

- Traditional marriage vows say “leave and cleave.”

- 1 Corinthians 6:15:  “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself?  Should I make my members as members of a harlot?”

- Whoever is joined with a harlot becomes one with her.

- If a man joins himself with a woman, he becomes one with her.

- People who have numerous sexual partners are giving themselves body and soul to them.

- They are giving themselves away; they feel cheap.

- Spouses feel something change when their partner engages in adulterous behavior.

- Before you cleave, you leave your marriage relationship.

- You leave your relationship with your spouse before you cleave to the other person.

- This is why we must remain pure.

- It affects our spirits; it affects families.

> He who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:17).

- We are to honor God in our body and our spirit.

- When we join ourselves to the Lord, we become one spirit with Him.

- We become bonded to Him.

- We leave the world and cleave to the Lord.

- We cannot join our members in adultery and still cleave to the Lord.

- We give up our intimacy with the Lord.

- God will not bless an adulterous relationship.

> If we continue to go in that direction, we invite the demonic world.

- We could join ourselves to a demonic spirit, the oppression of a demonic spirit.

- Satan works in darkness.

- We need to bring the relationship into the light.

- What are we to do?

- Go to God in humility and brokenness, and confess and repent.

- Adultery is devastating, but it is not the unpardonable sin.

- God will help; we need to continue to pray.

> If we violate this commandment, we will not have an intimate relationship with our spouse or the Lord.

- We will be miserable.

- The commandments are principles for us to remember in order to have a deep relationship with God.

- The commandments are about relationship, not condemnation.

> We need to set an example to those around us.

- We should value the marriage vow and commitment.

- We cannot allow our mind to go wherever it wants to go.

- We need to take our thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5).

- May the cry of our hearts be to remain pure.

CONCLUSION:  Adultery is devastating, but it’s not the unpardonable sin.  There is grace, and there is forgiveness.  There is mercy, and there is cleansing for those who are willing to go to God in humility and brokenness and honesty.  What is the Holy Spirit speaking to you concerning this message today?

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